Monday, January 26, 2009

Empathy Outweighs Ignorance

The only way to effectively give my accurate opinion is for me to put myself in the position of the husband of a wife that cannot have a baby for whatever reason. We are a loving couple who desperately wish to have a child yet cannot adopt based on legal jargon and paperwork. It seems we are not destined to ever have children of our own. But as it turns out, we can have something called gestational surrogacy. Not only would we be able to bring a baby of our own genes into the world, we would also be helping out a surrogate mother with our funds. Perhaps she was poor and this sum of $15,000 or so could get her back on her feet. From this perspective I can honestly see no reason why these people should not be allowed to have a child, even if it is through surrogacy. And from my quite frankly objective view as a college student, I can see absolutely no viable reason why a couple who could support a baby and give it a good life should not be entitled to one through surrogacy. The same extends to my feelings about a loving gay couple. They are deeply in love and fiscally well off. They would be sure to provide a good home and up bringing for the child but physically cannot create it. In my mind this child would be far better off than any natural born infant to impoverished or abusive parents. There are plenty of laws on the books protecting the rights of people with disabilities and equipment and rules to try to level the playing field for them in life. Well, why should infertility or any issue preventing conception not be handled as a disability, which it surely is. As long as the surrogate mother is consenting I can see no problems with it. Obviously there will be people who disagree with me, most likely on religious grounds, or throw out that the surrogate mothers are selling their bodies just like a prostitute, but I'd like to think there is a difference between giving sexual pleasure to a frustrated, middle management 40 something year old man and bringing a child into the world to two loving parents whom will give it the best the best life they possibly can. If a mother is unable to breast feed her natural child for some reason, it is either given formula or breast fed by another mother, it is not simply thrown in the garbage based on the mother's handicap. And I imagine the God didn't want them to have children argument will come up depending on the temperament of the arguing opponent but all I have to say to them is this: "Didn't God use a surrogate mother in the New Testament?"

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